Tuesday, June 12, 2012

They're All Miracles


Welcome to the Second Edition of the  Black Birth Carnival. Hosted by Darcel of The Mahogany Way Birth Cafe and Nicole of Musings From The Mind of Sista Midwife.
The Topic: Not Without Our Fathers. So often we talk birth in women circles. We celebrate birth within the feminine community and forget that without the fathers our birth experiences would be non existent. June 17th marks the day many will celebrate fathers in this country. With that in mind we came up with our topic for this installment of the Black Birth Blog Carnival.
This post you will be updated with live links by Noon, linking back to the other participants posts.





I don't know what the stats are for men of color to be present when their children are born, but I for one wouldn't trade that for anything. It is definitely life changing. 

I remember when TheWife was in labor at the hospital with Darcel. We didn't know if we were having a boy or girl. I didn't know if I was going into the delivery room or not. We didn't attend any of those Lamaze classes (heck, I don't know if they had them back then). So it's time for her to go in and it wasn't until then I was told to get myself ready. I'm in there nervous and ready. TheWife was in labor for hours so it wasn't very long after, Darcel was born into this world. I was soooo happy and all smiles....I was so up there I knew then that as a man, that was the ultimate human experience. You see firsthand and robe yourself in as close a birth experience without giving birth, that you will have for the rest of your life. You see what the woman in your life goes through ....I can only imagine how home birth fathers can put into words their experiences.


Now Reg was a totally different experience. Apparently TheWife and her grandmother had made plans for the labor time at the hospital to be minimal...without telling me. I knew it was time for us to leave and couldn't figure out what in the world they were waiting for. Her grandmother finally says it's time to go. I'm driving like all get out but don't take the freeway because it's late with hardly any traffic. I keep checking on her to make sure everything is ok. We're just about there and I could almost tell by the way she was positioning herself in the seat that things were getting or had already gotten to the point of, we really need to be at the hospital. I miss the turn into the parking lot, get it turned around and she says she's not going to be able to go in so I run in and tell them my wife is having a baby and I remember a nurse getting a wheelchair and I told her it was beyond that. Before you know it my car is almost surrounded....next thing I know, Reg is born. I didn't get to see his birth, (I was crowded out) but it was an experience I will never forget.


Experiencing child birth up close doesn't stop with mine...I have had the pleasure to be there with two of My3Grands. Kiah was the first and Samuel was the third. Although I wasn't there for Ava's birth I still feel as if I was a part of it because TheWife and I were watching Kiah during Ava's home birth. We got updates by phone from DaddyCharles. When we got the ok to come to there place, it still felt magical....like we were there the whole time.


I'm not sure if I captured the moments in words, what I had experienced with these five loving souls that are in my life. I don't know if I am a different person versus not having the experience of child birth, but there is one thing I know for certain....the sounds of a woman struggling through the stages of labor, into giving birth....the sounds of a baby's first cry, the sounds of joy expressed by all....can never be taken away....they are all miracles.


Please take the time to read and comment on the other participants posts. Shahmet at Adia Publishing: A Father Before Birth Reggie at WhatrUWorkinon?: They're All Miracles Nicole at Musings From The Mind of Sista Midwife: #BlackBirth Not Without Our Fathers Darcel at The Mahogany Way Birth Cafe: Are Men at Birth Important? Alexis at The Ivy Expansion: A Fathers Love Mavhu at F.W. Hargrove: I Birth At Home Twitter Hashtag #BlackBirth

7 comments:

Shahmet Gordon said...

What a blessing that you were able to experience not only the birth of your children but your grandchildren as well. Thanks for sharing!

Reggie White said...

Thank you Shahmet....yes it truly is a blessing.

Alexis said...

Oh wow! That is so sweet! :~) Touching!

Nicole @Sistamidiwfe said...

Oh WOW!!! i am going to cry!! This was sooo beautiful to me. Thank you so much for sharing such an intimate part of your life. I love it... love it.... love it :-)

Reggie White said...

Alexis forgive me taking so long to reply to your comment. Thank you for stopping in and for your kind words.

Reggie White said...

Nicole, so happy you enjoyed the read. I can't say enough how magical those memories are.

Darcel said...

I'll never get tired of hearing about our births! And I'm glad you were able to attend the births of my three children. I remember the midwife telling me that she needed to reassure you that I was ok during the birth of Samuel. Thanks again for watching the girls for us!

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